Fighting spirit 


Hi all, what sort of Dyspraxic are you; a sun worshipper or shade seeker? I am not even sure how to answer that questions myself because this time last year I was a sun worshipper but at present I fall in the shade seeker camp. Normally ill soak up some sun to gain pain relief, but this year the heat is  hindering rather then helping my situation. No, I'm not pinning it on Dyspraxia, the pain it's caused by fibro myalgia. ( Ill talk about that another time). As for the Dyspraxia and the impact heat has on it; I am finding that I am irritable, wanting to be on my own more and much preferring the silence. 

Unashamedly Dyspraxic


Apologies that it has been so long since we have spoke. I have missed writing but my focus and energy ( or should I say lack of energy … lol) has all been directed one way. The last month or so has been and continues to be a challenge. But I got to tell you, it's times like these where I actually appreciate being Dyspraxic. I know that Dyspraxia carries an air of awkwardness and yes it can be a pain in the behind, especially when it comes to dealing with people who haven't got a clue, what it is and  how it impacts you as an individual. It's ok, if people have never heard of it, it is our duty as Dyspraxics' to inform them, after all how can things improve without our input? But I can honestly say that I am glad that I am Dyspraxic. Being Dyspraxic has made me far more tenacious and determined then I ever would have been as a neurotypical. It has also enabled me to better understand those who are hurting and those who are left out. With Dyspraxia comes imagination and flexibility, after all we have to work round our difficulties, if we wish to get anywhere we have to preserve and reflect continuously on our actions. 

But how ?


Becoming unashamedly Dyspraxic did not simply happen overnight; it meant making a conscientious decision to first acknowledge it's existence rather then pretend it's not there and for want of a better phase... 'faking normality'. Then I began to research books and the internet and that is where I found the Manchester Dyspraxia Foundation Support Group... good old Fakebook (it has it's uses). Through connecting with other adults I have learnt coping strategies, I have learnt to laugh and appreciate Dyspraxia in all its quirky glory. You can also learn from other Dyspraxics how not to approach being Dyspraxic. Some like to (as I mentioned before) 'fake normality' and some like to use it as an excuse for laziness and they do not even attempt to improve their skillsets.  I think that faking normality and using it as an excuse to not even try are both equally as tragic because in both cases the willing victim is subjecting him or herself to a life of far more frustration and untapped potential. The person who acknowledges it, however will live a happier and more contented life. You reflect, listen, learn, laugh and tap into ability and strength that you never realised was possible in the first place. 
So think about it, what sort of Dyspraxic do you want to be? 

Useful Facebook groups 



https://www.facebook.com/groups/mdfasg/ 

 https://www.facebook.com/groups/1325570517569337/ 

 https://www.facebook.com/groups/dyspraxiainadulthood/ 

 https://www.facebook.com/groups/1770995566292993/ 




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